Two minutes with Google and you can find some statistics or an article to back up absolutely anything.
Breast is best, but pump so that dad isn’t left out, but beware of nipple confusion. You should breastfeed for a year, but the World Health Organisation recommends two years, but breastfeeding a toddler is vile. Or maybe just bottle feed so that you can ask for help and get the rest that you need to be a good mother. Babies should be in close contact with their parents as much as possible and we should practise safe co-sleeping but they also need to learn to self-soothe and be in their own rooms. Use the controlled crying method otherwise you’ll be rocking your child to sleep until they’re 13 but actually maybe that’s damaging to their self esteem. You should implement some discipline so that your child becomes a good person but don’t even think about shouting at them or using a time out, that might be damaging too, probably best to never say ‘no’, but then they’ll be spoilt brats.
I mean really, as if parenting wasn’t confusing enough.
I do know one thing for a fact though, to be the best parent you can be you need to do whatever your gut instinct tells you is right for your child and OWN IT.
You do not need to answer to anybody. I think I am a much better mother now that I’ve stopped worrying that some random woman in Costa is going to judge me for giving my child a biscuit. Why yes, I am STILL breastfeeding my daughter at nearly 22 months old, AND WHAT?
I know I’m a good mother because I put this little person before me every single day, how I go about that is just the details. Never let anybody make you feel inadequate or embarrassed about your parenting choices. Nobody knows your child and lifestyle like you do. I just wish I had felt like this from day one!
I was speaking to a lady at a baby group and she said she was bottle feeding and then felt the need to quickly tell me her baby wouldn’t latch and then she got mastitis so really she had no choice. I barely knew her and she was trying to justify her choices to me. If you’re bottle feeding, brilliant! Don’t feel like you have to defend yourself.
Everyone is different so why shouldn’t we be raising our children differently? At the end of the day, nobody’s child came with a manual. None of us know what we’re doing and we’re all just making it up as we go along anyway!
Thanks for reading,
Knight Mummy x